A 6-year-old boy from Texas is caught in two wars—one between separated and feuding parent, and another between changing concepts in psychology.
James, biologically male, is forced to wear girls clothes when in the custody of his mother. His mother has even enrolled him in first grade under the name “Luna.” His mother has insisted that he dress like a girl since he was three.
When James is in the custody of his father, he is asked to choose what clothes he prefers. And he invariably chooses boy’s clothing.
However, friends of the family told Walt Heyer with the publication the Federalist that James only identifies as a girl when his mother is the present. When James is with his father, he consistently identifies as a boy.
Friends of the family who know James do not see feminine tendencies.
Another friend, Ellen Grigsby, who met James and his brother agrees. “They were both ‘all boy’ and were having a great time. Both boys were absolutely dressed as boys and behaving as boys.” she told the Federalist.
According to the Federalist, James’ mother has accused her ex-husband of child abuse for not forcing James to choose to be a girl. The court has forbidden his father from discussing sexuality with James, and prohibits his father from teaching James about any aspects of the Christian religion which might reinforce James’ male identity.
James’ mother is also trying to get the court to force his father to pay for hormone treatments and possibly surgery, which would be irreversible for James.
James is in a vulnerable situation.
At his age, as a child eager to please his parents, unsure of anything about life, and always seeking both learning and guidance, James could easily be trained to act in many ways that are not authentic to him.
It is even possible that James could be conditioned to behave in now comfortable ways that will make him feel uncomfortable in the future.
In addition to possible surgery, James’ mother plans to put him on puberty-suppression drugs at the age of eight, to stop his body from growing into manhood. James’ natural impulses would be suppressed to “help” him conform to a diagnosis which, it seems likely, is premature at the very least.
Heyer is himself a victim of an overzealous parent’s attempt to make him live as other than his physical gender. Heyer’s mother was convinced her son was really a daughter, and spent two-and-a-half years trying to force that conviction upon him.
Heyer knows firsthand that not all children are sexually binary and strongly polar at a given age. Any number of pressures might cause a child to exhibit behaviors or to self-identify as the other or both genders.
Forcing a child into the wrong role could cause irremediable damage.
A Not Unusual Tale
An article in the July/August issue of The Atlantic magazine addressed the issue at length.
Initially, the idea of gender dysphoria was rejected in the community of psychologists. Gender roles were deemed to be determined by biology, and any difference between perceived and physical gender was considered to be an illness.
As time progressed and society, in general, grew more comfortable with the varieties of sexual identity, the psychological community went to the opposite extreme. Instead of rejecting the idea of gender dysphoria, doctors began assuming that any child who was not rigidly sexually binary was probably a candidate for sexual re-identification.
In a backlash against the old guard doctors who had rejected the idea of gender dsyphoria came a generation of doctors who felt that it was their duty to help every questioning child transition. In their view, the old idea had been to suppress any urges that society did not recognize.
In a pendulum reversal, the new thinking is that it is the duty of parents and medical professionals to affirm, support, and advance the child’s transition.
The missing piece? The duty of the parents and professionals to examine the needs of the child.
As the mother of a misdiagnosed child put it, “Psychologists know that adolescence is fraught with uncertainty and identity searching, and this isn’t even acknowledged.”
But it seems that “making sure” is no longer an accepted medical practice with some health professionals, unfortunately.
Once the idea of transgender people became socially accepted, the possibility that a person could prematurely identify as a transgender has been rejected.
Children may be taught to act the role of their non-physical gender, dress as the opposite gender, and in many cases, are given drugs to suppress puberty and prevent the body form from developing naturally into a sexually mature person. Some even undergo body-altering surgery before they reach physical or legal maturity.
As time has progressed, it seems that some doctors are beginning to see that errors have been made with medical interventions regarding a child’s sexuality.
In some cases, children who are not sexually dysphoric are trying to transition back to their biological sex as adults, and are often finding that drugs, hormone treatments, and in some cases surgery have made their gender change irreversible.
The children who were misdiagnosed are now stuck in the body of a mixed-gender adult—women with deep voices and facial hair, and men with breasts.
These doctors were seeing that in many children, their identities were changing constantly, sometimes in reaction to family and social stresses. They often did not know clearly what was causing their feelings to change.
There have also been many cases of children who were reacting to stress and confusion, or even to mental illness, and were being funneled into gender transition programs when they might have needed treatment for depression or autism, or just good counseling about the trials of growing up in a fractured family.
Six Is Too Young
At three, a child is years from sexual maturity and equally as far from forming a stable personality. James would not have been able to fully understand what it means to be a transgender adult.
Given James’ divided home life and his desire to please his parents, it would have been very difficult for anyone to be certain they understood what he was really feeling on the inside—and that whatever he was feeling at any one particular point in time was not guaranteed to change the next day.
James should be allowed to grow up to be who he really is, as James’s father believes.
Published with permission from The Epoch Times